I have a friend who was talking about his girlfriend. He’s one of those people who is a straight shooter. He tells it like it is. I’m fascinated by people like this and admire that freedom. Sometimes it can give you a little shock, but, it’s the kind of honesty that is refreshing. He’s not trying to please man. He is confident, yet, humble enough to receive feedback. When speaking of his girlfriend he said, “most of the time I pretty much hate making decisions based on her.” That was enough to give me a little jolt. My first thought was, “oh my, do not get married and do not have children!” The more I pondered, the more I thought that I was likely being arrogant in my thinking. He was confessing what was difficult, what goes against our flesh. He was recognizing something I don’t think I really would have, before getting married.
It can be quite burdensome to put others above ourselves and our desires. Marriage has given me a bigger glimpse into the bold terms used like, “die to yourself.” Another, “take up your cross,” is one with a sting. The cross was an instrument of death. How pleasant does that sound? We count the cost as followers and the reward is much greater than our sacrifice could ever be. We are committed to Jesus and we are committed to our spouse. Considering others above ourselves is not always natural, it’s a command. Philippians 2 tells us to think of others before ourselves. Be imitators of Christ. Jesus is the example to follow.